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My bookshelf right now

December 5, 2009 2 comments
All the books I'm reading right now

All the books I'm reading right now

  • Terry Pratchett, Thud!
  • Donald A Norton, The Design of Everyday Things
  • Anne Fausto-Sterling, Sexing the Body (on loan from the gracious S)
  • Judith Halberstam, Female Masculinity (also via S)
    I really want to read this but so far it’s as thick as molasses.
  • Julia Serano, Whipping Girl
    Actually I just finished this book.  I can’t even remember the last time I got to the very end of a full-length book. Highly recommended.
  • Thomas More, Utopia
    This book is so short, but at the half-way point it is pretty boring
  • Susan Stryker, Transgender History (courtesy of the Toronto Public Library)
    Reese Kelly has a good review of this on his YouTube, which has inspired me to pick it back up.
  • Original Plumbing
    A great zine about trans men
  • Inga Muscio, Autobiography of a Blue-eyed Devil (from the TPL)
    This book looks promising but I will probably have to return it to the library before I read it.  I might buy a copy sometime though so I can read it when I’m in the mood.
  • Jean Bobby Nobel, Sons of the Movement: FtMs Risking Incoherence on a Post-Queer Cultural Landscape
    This book is exactly as academic as the title suggests.  I ploughed through some of it but was unable to find much of use.
  • Patrick Califia, Macho Sluts
    So much introductory material the first story doesn’t start until page 73! It’s a very interesting introduction though, and the stories are worth the wait.
  • Emily White, Fast Girls
    Uninspiring, from the TPL
  • Barbara Ehrenreich, Bright Sided
    Started reading this hoping to justify by generalized crumugenliness, however the arguments presented so far have logical errors and I would be embarrassed to repeat them in conversation.  Disappointing from the woman who once wrote Witches, Midwives and Nurses, a booklet which as far as I can see is now distributed exclusively in zine form.
  • Robert E Penn, The Gay Man’s Wellness Guide
  • Michael Manning, The Spider Garden
  • Kevyn Aucoin, Making Faces

Consent makes sex better

December 5, 2009 2 comments

This is what a man looks like puts it well:

Asking and being asked keeps me present, keeps me feeling my body and my sweetheart’s body.  I’ve found that when explicit consent is not present, I’ll start to leave or wander the labyrinth of my mind.  Oh, but then there’s asking.  When I ask, I’m acknowledging what I want, and I connect with my hands, with my mouth, with my whole body to my mind.  When I’m asked, I’m able to be fully in the moment, with my whole being saying “Yeah I want to,” instead of “Sure, I could tolerate that.”  It feels so powerful to own my desires and say them out loud, and to hear my lovers say their desires for me out loud.  This is taking back the power that was taken from me, over my body and my sexuality.

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Sex and transex

December 3, 2009 1 comment

Two points against me being transexual:

  1. Was never confused about why I didn’t have a penis although I can remember when I was very little thinking I did.  Somehow that notion was corrected and I accepted it, though. (What I thought was a penis was actually my inner labia.) Have no angst about not having primary or secondary male sex characteristics. Everything revolves around social role, behavior, self image, interactions, rather than “wrongness” of body. That said I think what I want when I consider hormones is being “more right”.
  2. Do not put myself in the male role in my fantasies and I consistently identify with the female-bodied roles in the erotica I read. I love reading stories about people who’s body configurations roughly match mine because so much of the imagery I enjoy involves receptive penetration of all sorts and various ways to be very, very mean to breasts.  Also coincidentally, two things I enjoy tremendously in real life. 🙂 I tend to be sillily realistic with my fantasies and things which are implausible or seem outright dangerous are much less erotic to me than things I could conceive of, even if it’s implausible I would ever carry them out.

These seems to be pretty consistent pieces of trans sexuality, according to my reading.

(I am becoming exhausted from thinking about this stuff. I tihnk soon I will reach the point where I will just stop for a few months to process it… That’s my usual MO.)

Interview with Buck Angel

October 27, 2009 Leave a comment

Buck Angel representin with the mtf self-love! Yeah!

Bike Porn 3 Trailer

September 28, 2009 Leave a comment

Holy crap, these people have done everything I ever thought of doing with the bike + kinky sex combo, but have done it way better than I ever could.  I love it when that happens!

Blurry but nice.

September 15, 2009 2 comments
Morning at my house

Morning at my house

Categories: My photos, Sex & pleasure

My vagina is 8 miles wide

September 3, 2009 Leave a comment

What a crazy song….