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Butches

Have been leafing through Sugarbutch‘s Top Hot Butches. To be honest I am still not sure what butch means. I always think of a butch person (of any gender) as being tough, with big arms. They look big even if they’re short. Probably have short hair but not always. often found wearing a black sleeveless shirt.

But the pictures on this list seem to include women who have taken aesthetic elements from many different styles of male dress and mannerisms, not just the more sterotypical.

Do you have to be a dyke to be butch?

I absolutely love this picture, of Angie Evans.

I admit it's the tattoo and not anything else that I love. Is this a real tattoo? I don't know. But I want one.

New fetlife profile

I rewrote my profile.  It contains most of the information from the old one but in much less space.  Awesome. (Updated 09/09/03 to reflect edits I have made)

Still here

Hey folks, just to say I am still here. I have not forgotten, but my life is really ridiculously full. I will try to write something soon.
I have been processing hemp rope and I have pictures, but they are on a digital camera and I need some help to get them onto my computer (lack equipment not knowledge).

Male submission art

Have I ever told you how much I appreciate the blog Male Submission Art?  Here are the reasons:

1. Positive depictions of male in submissive positions which do not rely on the “humiliation” of being portrayed in a feminine way.
2. Having both male and females in dominant roles.
3. Descriptions of photos underneath the photos, which to a wordy person like myself make it 3x better.
4. The person who writes the blog is obviously thinking about what he is putting up, he is not just

From April 1st 2009′s illustrated tirade against sexist msub porn:

Another thing I despise about much of the way submissive men are portrayed is that they are de-sexualized while the cisgendered dominant woman is hypersexualized, as this picture clearly showcases. Even here, though, most of the photograph is far more focused on her than it is on him. This merely emphasizes the virgin-whore duplicity in the way such imagery depicts women, and simultaneously reinforces the insignificance of the submissive man along with both partners’ (falsely) unattainable sexuality. In other words, dominant women are at once the ultimate sex symbol and untouchable—they are put into the no-sex class—and submissive men are made instantly undesirable, incapable, and unsexy, since being sexy is a role filled by the woman.

This took place in 3 posts: 1st 2nd and 3rd.

Feminism & submission I

When I was 17, newly anarchist and recently gaining a decent understanding of feminism, I read the book Direct Action by Ann Hansen.  In it, she describes her work with the Wimmin’s Fire Brigade, a group of militant feminist women who operated in the Vancouver area in the 80s.  They had decided shut down (i.e. firebomb) a pornography chain called Red Hot Video, which sold porn they saw as being particularly degrading to women.  I don’t remember the exact descriptions from the book, but basically this place sold BDSM porn.

I was torn because on the one hand I thought they had a point that the men consuming this porn would have a very fucked up idea of what women like, it would be damaging to the men as human beings and potentially to the women they have in their lives.  I do not think I was entirely wrong on this.  I was also big into militant direct action.  I thought if you wanted to do something you should do it right, and these women certainly did it right.

On the other hand I had been aware for a few years that the fantasies I had always made for myself while alone in bed at night were the same kinds of things these women were willing to firebomb against.  I knew that I had porn on my computer they would want to destroy.

I reacted by trying to rid myself of kink, not for the first nor last time.  But eventually I couldn’t stand it anymore, I came back to the sexy sexy submission fantasies and pain play.  I couldn’t just ignore it, I had to integrate feminism and submission.  I like to be internally consistent.